Redefining What “Boss Bitch” Means to Me

Here’s the truth: sometimes reclaiming a word isn’t about what it has meant in the past. It’s about what it makes you feel now.

Growing up, I wasn’t allowed to use bad language. Even words like “shut up” or “knickers” were strictly off-limits in our house. Maybe that’s why I’ve always been so conscious of the way words carry weight—how they can empower or diminish, heal or harm.

Take the word bitch, for example. For years, I believed it was about as offensive as it gets when hurled at a woman. It wasn’t just a word; it was a weapon, used to cut women down, diminish their power, and label them as “too much.” And even now, when I hear terms like “boss bitch,” “boss babe,” or the particularly cringy “mompreneur,” I feel that old discomfort.

I’ve never loved the stereotypes these phrases conjure up. Let’s be honest: when people talk about a “boss bitch,” they often picture someone aggressive, unapologetically career-focused, and maybe even a bit of a workaholic. Someone who bulldozes their way to success at all costs, ignoring everything and everyone in their path.

But that’s not what I’m leaning into.

For me, reclaiming “boss bitch” is about something entirely different. It’s not about becoming some sort of caricature of ambition or grinding myself into the ground to prove my worth. It’s about redefining what success—and power—look like on my terms.

It’s about fiercely pursuing my goals without apology, but also making space for rest, joy, and connection. It’s about letting go of the “good girl” mindset I carried for far too long—the one that told me to stay small, be agreeable, and avoid rocking the boat. It’s about being a disruptor, but one who leads with purpose, values, and integrity.

Being a boss bitch for me doesn’t mean losing my softness or sacrificing balance. It means being bold enough to own my ambitions while staying grounded in what matters most. It means showing up authentically, taking up space, and saying no to the societal expectations that tell women they can’t be powerful without being unlikable.

After a seriously tough year, I woke up one day and thought, “Enough is enough. 2024 is going to be my unapologetic boss bitch era”. Not because I want to adopt a label, but because I want to reclaim the power that word represents when I choose to redefine it.

Because here’s the truth: sometimes reclaiming a word isn’t about what it has meant in the past. It’s about what it makes you feel now.

And for me, stepping into this identity feels like stepping into my strength. It feels like finally shedding the stories that kept me small. It feels like rewriting my own narrative—and writing it with intention, joy, and just enough fire to spark something incredible.

So here’s to redefining words that were once weapons. Here’s to ambition that doesn’t have to be harsh and success that doesn’t come at the cost of balance. And here’s to showing up fully, boldly, and unapologetically in every area of life.